Thursday, October 29, 2009

Babies in Bars

I love when businesses get creative and to cater to moms. Like Six Plates bar in Durham.

As a bar, you have to imagine that people aren't rubbing the hinges off their doors at 4pm. So when one of our mommies found out that that Six Plates Wine Bar offers a "Mommy's Vino" event we were there in a NY minute.

In their words:
"Beginning September 10th, every Thursday from 4-6pm we will child proof our bar to allow the moms who desire an opportunity to have a nice glass of wine an opportunity to do that without worrying about their child bothering the other customers. We will rope off our back room to our regular customers and leave the front room available to all the moms in the triangle to get together, have a glass of wine and a light bite. Moms, please bring everything you need to keep your kids happy as far as toys, drinks, and food. We will provide you with the wine and food. There will also be a 10% discount on food and non-alcoholic drinks for any designated drivers."

(which please note that you should not need a designated driver while hanging out with your baby, ew!)

Anyhow, public service announcement aside, we gave this a go. Fantastic idea. But bear in mind that they use the term "child proof" lightly. They don't really do anything to make the place kid-friendly. It just is a time of day for you to bring your baby in and not worry about bothering other people because, HEY, this is a MOMMY'S EVENT. Sadly, this is not well advertised so we were the only people there. I had to do an Internet search just to find the text above it is so hard to find on their website.

BUT, advertise it they do.
And it is really good food and wine.
So I say Go For It!

Six Plates Wine Bar
www.sixplates.com

2812 Erwin Rd
Durham, NC
919.321.0203

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Pumpkins & Fall: Ganyard Farm

Updated 10/8/2010

It's the fall. Halloween is around the corner. You need a pumpkin. But you don't want just any pumpkin, you want to pick it out with your lovie, maybe get a hayride in, and experience the Fall.

Enter Ganyard Hill Farm.

When we went, C was little. Not even sitting. But I could tell he loved it. I certainly loved it!

It isn't cheap to get in at $12.50 per person over the age of 2. But that includes everything on the farm and your pumpkin (1 pumpkin per paid admission).

You can picnic on the grounds as they have ample benches and tables. They have carnivorous pigs here (do not stick your hands through those gates!), cows, and goats. The hayrides are a blast and long; and you can go as many times as you want. There is a big hay stack for climbing that also has a bumpy tunnel slide in it. There is a hay maze, too, that is short and for the kids.

The best part is the corn crib, though. This is a big, deep pit of dried corn kernels that children of all ages love (don't think about the germs!).

Each year have gone we picked our own pumpkins. Well, I use that phrase lightly. One year Farmer Ganyard had obviously picked up some pumpkins and moved them to sit near the pumpkin vines when we were there. I imagine the pumpkins were still grown on the premises, just moved for our convenience (I hope).

Ganyard is a great place. Close and it has everything you want. But it is such a great place that it is very popular with school field trips. Worth calling ahead to make sure you aren't there with hoards of elementary school kids when you go.

Ganyard Hill Farm
http://www.pumpkincountry.com/
Mon - Sat 9:00 am to 6:00 pm.
Sun 10:00 am to 6:00 pm
319 Sherron Rd.,
Durham, NC 27703

(919)596-8728

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Mommies Groups

So my words about mom support groups in the area...

It is so important for mommies to have other mommies to lean on, talk to, engage with, and otherwise use for support. Many Mothers Clubs in the area facilitate these groups. I highly recommend you get connected to one.

1. Chapel Hill/Carrboro Mothers Club
http://chapelhillmothersclub.org/

A newly vamped website that is slowly adding more information, it can be a real resource. By becoming a member of the Club (for a mere $10 a month: you can afford it by cutting out 1 or 2 frappuccinos a year), you get access to closed playgroups.

For these Newborn playgroups, the MC links you with other women who had children the same month as you. It is then up to the group to decide where and when to meet. So each group has a different dynamic and personality.

Couple of things to note about this:
- Each group is different in size. It is all dependent on how many people gave birth around the same time as you and are interested in joining. I know of 1 group that split into 2 because the size was so large, and they also wanted to have times for working moms, too.

- Men are controversial in these small playgroups. There is a lot of nursing going on and talk of female-specific post-pregnancy recovery issues. Due to that, it is up to each individual small group to determine their comfort level with men in these small groups.

- The groups change over time. Many mothers start this while they are on maternity leave then head back to work and can no longer meet. Also, people move and life changes. So while people will drop out, people rarely sign up. (I want to point out that these groups really work with working moms, too.)

It is certainly worth trying out. I have had many mommy friends gleam when talking about the wonderful new women they met through their mommies group. And I know that many women form lifelong friendships through these Newborn Playgroups. For me, personally, my work schedule is spastic, so it simply became hard to commit. But the women I met are very nice and fun! So I recommend giving this a go.

**Oh, and this is about the Newborn Playgroups only. I don't know much about other closed playgroups, but I look forward to learning.**

I have not personally taken advantage of the other activities the MC has to offer. But I plan to as they look like fun.

The best part of the MC? The babysitters list. But you have to join to get that.

2. Durham Mothers Club
http://www.durham-mothers-club.org


Living in Chapel Hill, I am not as involved or knowledgeable about this group. I have had some friends who are members pass me information, but haven't heard that much about playgroups from this. Send me information if you have it!

3. Meet Up
http://www.meetup.com

I also know some women who have had a lot of success with Meet Up. A social website meant for connecting people of all different interests and hobbies, it is not exclusive to mothers. But narrow your search or post and you can find mommies in your area looking to connect as well.

One of the most active groups for you mommies living in South Durham: http://www.meetup.com/South-Durham-Moms/

Really, do try one out. The Mommies Groups: they aren't just for stay-at-home moms anymore.